This is just a kind reminder
Teenagers - they are NOT broken children.
They are adults under construction.
WORK IN PROGRESS
(Do NOT disturb)
– Anna Cieśnik
The process is messy. It will look for all of you like nothing else before.
At some point, you can loose the hope and vision.
They can lost their path (and mind).
But at the end of this process, there will be something beautiful to show.
And, if you will not become the enemy number one during this messy process - you may be invited to celebrate or participate later in the show.
So, please be patient as a parent.
Be mindful.
There is nothing stable or familiar in this process (except unexpected and unknown changes). Everything is new, exciting or scary for you as a parent and for them as the main character of this show.
Teenagers - they literally loosing the half of the connections in their brain to make space for new important skills. Can you imagine that?
How does it look like from your perspective?
If they liked something before, now they can hate this! Just like that!
You may feel frustrated looking as the entire effort done so far (all the additional lessons, trips, all the memories, investments) are gone.
It’s a matter of the transformation process - for them to become an adult…
…and for You…
…to let go.
So, sit down. Calm down. Support and listen.
Be for them, when they whisper for help.
Keep the healthy boundaries in place.
If you feel like you cannot do it anymore, try to find someone else that can. Someone to help navigate their journey while you are resting and rebuilding yourself. Usually, this will be the other parent or some younger family member.
They will need you again later (if you will not become the enemy number one in their life during this messy process).
Want some scientific evidences? Watch the TED talk below.
This is what Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Neuroscientist, said during the TEDxYouth Talk about the transformation of teenage brain and body 👇🏻
If you are a parent of a teenager - the only advice for you is this:
Just keep them alive till 25!
– Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
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